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Gay Dates Fall 2023 – The Good, The Bad and The Absolute Unforgivable

by | Sep 22, 2023

Dating in the gay world – let’s admit it, it’s a challenge. Now, don’t get us wrong, we absolutely live for the thrill of getting to know someone new, but let’s spill the tea: picking the perfect date spot or activity? That’s where things get, well, a bit sticky.

Most of our heterosexual friends might think they have it easy, but choosing where to take Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now) on a date? That’s an Olympic sport for us. And don’t even get us started on how our dating preferences sometimes stand out in stark contrast to our lovely lesbian sisters.

Gay men have tastes sculpted and nuanced by our unique lifestyles, challenges, and triumphs. And that means our ideal dates can sometimes look a tad different from the mainstream.

Here’s the dilemma: with the seasons changing and Fall 2023 upon us, where do you take your date to ensure a memorable evening (for the right reasons)? Fear not, because we’ve got you covered.

In this article, we’re diving deep into the world of gay dating, listing out the top-notch gay dates.

Gay dates fall 2023, the ones that might leave a sour taste, and those that you should avoid, like last season’s fashion faux pas.

Grab your pumpkin-spiced latte, snuggle up, and let’s get into the do’s and don’ts of Fall 2023 dating. Trust us; you won’t want to miss out on this!

A gay man in the Rocky Mountains on an autumn day.

The good gay dates fall 2023 – What you should definitely do!

Let’s keep it real. We all want our dates to be sprinkled with a little magic, a tad bit of adventure, and a splash of romance. So, to ensure your date nights this Fall are as fabulous as you are, here’s our chic take on three date ideas you should definitely consider. These are the good gay dates fall 2023 – those that will help you turn anyone into Mr. Right Now.

Dazzling Foliage & Quiet Moments

Strolling amidst the stunning fall foliage might sound cliché, but clichés are clichés for a reason! The changing leaves aren’t just nature’s way of flirting with us; they set the perfect backdrop for some intimate moments.

The rustling of leaves, the cool breeze, and those secluded spots away from the world offer a wonderful escape (and some cruising action, if you’re into it…).

Sharing this with someone special? Priceless!

It’s less about the leaves and more about those deep, uninterrupted conversations where you truly get to know each other. Grab that scarf, maybe a little flask of something warming, and explore the romance nature has to offer.

Renaissance Fairs: Glamour & Nostalgia

Think of a Renaissance as time-travel with a dash of drama! The Renaissance era was all about expressions and change, and what better way to channel that than at a U.S. Renaissance fair?

With flamboyant outfits, classic arts, and the occasional joust, it’s an eclectic mix of fun and glitz. It’s an experience where you both can immerse in a world far removed from the present, making it a perfect setting for some fabulous selfies and memories.

Bookstores, Brews & Whispered Secrets

Let’s toast to simplicity! On those chilly Fall days, nothing beats the combo of a cozy bookstore, a hot brew, and some delightful company. This date idea is a shoutout to all our fellow bibliophiles and caffeine lovers. Wander through the aisles, discuss your favorite reads, or share quiet moments over a cup of coffee. And if the rain’s tapping on the windowpanes? Oh, that’s just nature’s playlist setting the mood!

Whatever you choose, remember it’s the shared moments and authentic connections that make a date truly memorable. Now, go on and make some heartwarming memories this Fall.

Going on Gay Dates Fall 2023? Heres What You Shouldn’t Do!

Now, let’s move on to the bad dates. The ones you may think are great but definitely won’t impress the person you’re trying to swoon.

Alright, let’s chat. A date – it’s not just an evening out or a casual meet-up. It’s a chance to connect, to leave an impression, to sparkle together. And in the world of gay dating, where every detail can amplify or diminish the magic, choosing the right setting is crucial.

Think choosing a date like fashion – the right ensemble can elevate your entire mood, while a misstep? Well, let’s just say not everything deserves its runway moment.

Now, we’re all for experimental dates, but there are some scenarios where the risks outweigh the rewards. Here are three date settings that might not give you the romantic crescendo you’re hoping for:

These are the bad gay dates fall 2023.

Slam Poetry Reading: Silence Isnt Always Golden

Slam poetry? A masterful expression of emotions, indeed. A good setting for a date? Eh, not so much.

Imagine trying to forge a connection amidst impassioned poets reciting their deep emotions and an audience in rapt attention. Interrupting the flow for a chit-chat? A major drawback!

There’s little space to chat, connect, or even react without throwing off the ambiance. Plus, the emotional weight of some poems might be a bit too heavy for a fledgling relationship.

Friends Birthday Party: Too Much, Too Soon?

Taking a date to a friend’s birthday bash is a bit like adding sequins to a daytime look – bold but potentially blinding. It’s tricky ground. Your date might end up feeling like an outsider amidst in-jokes, old memories, and stories.

Balancing between playing the perfect host and the attentive date?

A juggling act that few can master without dropping a ball. It’s a crash course in your social circle that might be a touch overwhelming.

The Club: Can You Hear Me Now?

A realm of pumping beats, shimmering lights, and, let’s admit, some questionable choices.

Great for dancing the night away, but for a date?

Trying to have a conversation over thumping basslines can get old fast. The club’s atmosphere, while electric, might not allow for those sweet, personal moments where real connections are made.

In the grand theatre of dating, it’s necessary to choose the right backdrop for your budding romance. Remember, it’s about two people connecting, and sometimes, silence, familiarity, or sheer volume can be the biggest divas stealing your spotlight!

Now let’s move on to the downright ugly…

The Downright Unforgivable for LBGT dates Autumn 2023

As we talk about dating dos and don’ts, there are some turns so treacherous they should come with a warning sign. Picture these as those outfits we once thought were oh-so-chic but now cringe at the mere memory. Yes, certain date ideas can pretty much assure you an entry into your date’s “never again” diary.

Let’s unveil the hall of infamy, shall we?

The Movies: Silence, but Not the Golden Kind

The classic cinema date! Lights dimmed, surround sound, and… absolutely no room for conversation. While the allure of a silver screen tale is undeniable, it leaves you and your date as passive spectators, not active participants in your own romantic storyline.

Two hours of shared silence later, and you might still be strangers. And don’t even get us started on the awkward dance of “Who’s paying for the popcorn?”

The Beach: Sun, Sand, and… Surprises

The beach – sun-kissed skin, waves crashing, and that perfect Instagram sunset. But let’s get real for a moment. Sand in places it has no business being, unexpected gusts of wind wreaking havoc on that hairdo you spent hours perfecting, and the eternal quest for a spot that isn’t right next to a boisterous family of six.

The beach might look dreamy in theory but in practice?

It’s a gamble that rarely pays off.

A Visit to the Parents House: Fast-Tracking to Familiarity

Taking someone to meet the folks on a first or second date?

That’s jumping several seasons ahead in your romantic series! It’s a high-pressure setting where your date might feel they’re in a job interview rather than a relaxed evening out.

And unless your parents are the chillest humans on Earth, there’s bound to be at least one embarrassing story or well-meaning interrogation.

Let’s be clear: we’re all for pushing boundaries and trying new things. But when the stakes are high, and hearts are on the line, it’s best to sidestep these risky ventures.

After all, there’s experimental, and then there’s… detrimental.

Reflections & Revelations: Your Date Night Chronicles

As the golden hues of Fall 2023 descend upon us and we gear up for another season of romantic rendezvous, we need to remember that every tale of love and longing is as unique as the individuals living it.

Our listed bests and worsts are not set in stone; they’re simply the reflections of our collective experiences as gay individuals. Each person’s journey and date has its own flavor and story.

Perhaps you’ve had the most charming evening at a slam poetry event, or maybe the movies have been your sanctuary for shared silences and stolen glances. And that’s the beauty of it.

Dating, like life, doesn’t come with a one-size-fits-all manual.

What’s your take? Do you nod in agreement, or are you shaking your head with a contrasting narrative? Spill the tea in the comments! We’re all ears (and eyes) for your tales of romantic hits and misses.

Got a delightful or disastrous date story? If you’re open to sharing, we’re open to listening, laughing, and maybe even shedding a tear or two with you.

Because, at the end of the day, it’s the sharing, connecting, and collective ‘yasss’ or ‘nayy’ moments that make our community shine and oh-so-special.

Now, go out there and make some stories worth telling!

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Brian Webb

Brian Webb


Brian Webb is the founder and editor-in-chief of HomoCulture, a celebrated content creator, and winner of the prestigious Mr. Gay Canada – People’s Choice award.An avid traveler, Brian attends Pride events, festivals, street fairs, and LGBTQ friendly destinations through the HomoCulture Tour. He has developed a passion for discovering and sharing authentic lived experiences, educating about the LGBTQ community, and using both his photography and storytelling to produce inspiring content.Originally from the beautiful Okanagan Valley in the southern interior of British Columbia, Brian now lives in Vancouver, British Columbia. His personal interests include travel, photography, physical fitness, mixology, drag shows.

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