Ready, aim, fire—what, done already? The banana didn’t even touch the peach! But don’t worry; we’re about to make sure next time is unforgettable. Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common issue, affecting up to 39% of men at some point in their lives, according to medical studies. Mayo Clinic notes that about one in three men will experience it. But there’s good news: PE can be managed, and we’re here to show you how.
What Is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is when you ejaculate sooner than you or your partner would like during sex. Typically, it takes around five-and-a-half minutes for the average male to ejaculate during intercourse. However, everyone’s different, so PE includes ejaculating before you wish, which can vary greatly between individuals and couples.
While PE can occur for various reasons, there’s no single factor that researchers agree on. It can happen for no apparent reason, and many men have experienced it at some point—this is normal. The problem arises when it’s frequent.
Causes of Premature Ejaculation
PE can stem from several factors, including:
- Performance Anxiety: Worrying about your performance can speed up ejaculation.
- Depression: Mental health issues can impact sexual function.
- Stress and Relationship Issues: Emotional strain can affect your sexual performance.
- Prostate and Thyroid Problems: Medical conditions can play a role.
- Recreational Drug Use: Certain substances can interfere with sexual stamina.
- Hypersensitivity: Some men are simply more sensitive than others.
A physician might diagnose PE if you experience one or more of the following symptoms:
- Ejaculating within a minute of penetration.
- Struggling to delay ejaculation during sex.
- Feeling stressed or frustrated and avoiding sex because of PE.
How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation
Relax, It’s Normal
Mother Nature designed us to cum quickly for procreation. In the wild, our closest relatives, the chimps, sometimes get it done in under 10 seconds. But humans have sex for pleasure, not just reproduction, so lasting longer is key to satisfying your partner. Knowing this can take off some of the pressure.
Give It Time
Often, PE resolves on its own. Factors like stress or depression might clear up, and your brain resets your ejaculation timing subconsciously.
Techniques to Delay Ejaculation
Start-Stop Technique
As the name suggests, you stop and start again during sex or masturbation when you feel close to ejaculating. This helps train your body to last longer.
Squeeze Technique
Squeeze the area between the shaft and glans of your penis for about 30 seconds when you’re close to ejaculating. This can help delay your orgasm.
Masturbation Before Sex
Many men find that masturbating before sex helps delay ejaculation. The refractory period after the first orgasm makes you less likely to cum quickly the second time.
Additional Tips for Better Control
Use Condoms
Condoms can reduce sensitivity, helping you last longer. There are even desensitizing condoms available that can further help delay ejaculation.
Focus on Foreplay
Engaging in extended foreplay can help take the pressure off intercourse itself. By the time you get to penetration, both you and your partner are more likely to be satisfied.
Try Different Positions
Some sexual positions might help you last longer than others. Experiment to find out what works best for you and your partner.
Practice Kegels
Kegel exercises strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can help you gain better control over your ejaculation. Practice these exercises regularly for the best results.
Professional Help and Medications
Therapy
Sometimes, talking to a therapist can help address underlying issues like anxiety or relationship problems that contribute to PE.
Medications
There are medications available that can help delay ejaculation. Talk to your doctor about what’s right for you.
Topical Treatments
There are creams and sprays designed to reduce sensitivity and help you last longer. These can be applied to your penis before sex.
Lifestyle Changes
Reduce Stress
Stress management techniques like yoga, meditation, and regular exercise can help improve your overall well-being and sexual performance.
Avoid Recreational Drugs
Certain drugs can negatively affect your sexual stamina. Avoid these to improve your performance.
Maintain a Healthy Diet
Eating a balanced diet can improve your overall health and sexual performance. Focus on foods that boost your stamina and energy levels.
Share Your Experience and Tips
Overcoming premature ejaculation is possible with the right techniques and mindset. Whether it’s through simple lifestyle changes, practicing control techniques, or seeking professional help, you can enjoy longer, more satisfying sessions. Remember, it’s normal, and you’re not alone. Share your thoughts, tips, and experiences in the comments below. Your journey to better sexual health and stamina can inspire others!
I often use the start-stop technique mentioned above. Getting myself out of the mood briefly, without losing my erection, also has helped me.
I’ve found that concentrating on my breathing has helped me sometimes when it comes to trying to prevent premature ejaculation. Keeping my breathing pace slow and relaxed.
I’ve also found that edging myself can help myself as well, pushing myself to my limit then slow breathing and repeating the process again.
Gotta practice keeping that blow hole tight 🐳 and stopping for snacks in the middle helps 🐟
I make sure I’m rock hard before entering the bottom. Then to delay orgasm, focus on the bottom and pleasing him to distract my senses a bit.
If you on a regular basis do some kegel exercises will
Tighten your muscles, hold for three seconds, and then relax for three seconds. Try it a few times in a row.
It has helped me.
If I cum fast, I just make sure to focus on him, then usually I’ll get turned on and cum again.
My tried-and-true method is to service my partner until I bring myself down. So, whenever I get close and I feel like it’s too soon, I pull out and perform oral on my partner. This way I can get them as close as possible to cuming as well and if we both get our Big O at the same time then it’s perfect. I may even try to get them to cum first, so that when I come quickly after, they know it’s because of how sexy and alluring they are.
I don’t even have a technique. If I accidentally cum too fast I just apologize and that’s it. Plus my partner isn’t normal, it takes him forever to cum so it’s not fair either way. I tried using toys on him to compensate if I cum early but that does nothing for me. Am I selfish AND broken?? I need help.
Honestly, being honest with your partner is the best thing you can do. If you open up you can talk about it and they could even help you with your problem. Also concentrating on the activity, because you could also loose breath if you go too extreme.
Deep breathing/erotic breathing has been a great way to build stamina. I combine that with a timer I set in increments of 10 (10, 20, 30, working up to a minute). So for 10 seconds I focus on my breathing and masturbate continuously until the time is up. Repeat that process until I can work up to a minute, nonstop. Also just listening and trusting your body is a great way to learn your limits! Where’s your limit of no return? Where’s your almost there point? Where’s your happy medium? All of which you can find by exploring and trusting your body, rather than beating yourself up or getting frustrated simply because you cum earlier than other folks! AND! Don’t forget, everyone cums at different times! Go easy on yourself! It’s just as sexy to communicate with your partner and let them know your stamina, that way you can work together for an intimate experience you can BOTH enjoy. No pressure, no problem!
I don’t really have a technique but I’ve found edging helps build stamina. You also learn how to control it.
Take a break and think of something non sexual. Like Roseanne Barr. Or gophers.
A technique I use is to switch back and forth between fucking him and then eating his ass or sulking his cocktail. Make him my focus if I feel I’m about to cut. Another way is to tell him to lick on my balls or my hole if I feel I would cut quickly from a bj. Lots of giving rather than focusing my my cock and instant pleasures.
1) Don’t be too hard on yourself. Many guys cum fast, and many people enjoy having sex with guys who come fast.
2) Get to know how your body reacts. Practicing edging by yourself, learning to spot when you’re about to cum and using toys like a Fleshjack can be great ways to become more comfortable with your body and to build your stamina.
3) Relax. Being tensed/nervous can trigger premature ejaculation. Try breathing exercises, or try to focus on something in your surroundings (object, sound, sensation…) that calms you down and helps lower your stage fright.
4) Communication. Sexual partners are rarely on the same tempo, so the best way to stay synced is to talk about it. A simple “hold on, I’m getting close” can signal to your partner that you need to take a little break or switch positions/roles. The start stop method is a good example.
5) Have fun and don’t take it too seriously! 🙂
What helps me is to meditate before sex
The way I prevent premature ejaculation is edging. If I feel I’m gonna cum I just either slow down or stop and I don’t cum.
I like to edge and sniff poppers. That gets me going and I always stop right before I get too close.
Cock rings during foreplay really excite the system before any premature ejaculation occurs. Being able to entice all the other parts of the body really spices things up in he bedroom
i love to stop right before i finish and make out with my partner
I love teasing my frenulum with a lubed finger or a vibrating toy. I bring myself close over and over, and try like hell not to cross that line and blow my load before I’m ready. Not only does this technique feel amazing, but it helps me prolong my jack sessions, and almost always results in my blowing a huge load!
I do the start stop technique
Slow down and eat ass until the situation has eased, then get back into it 🙂
I love to edge, and sometimes use a cream that can help prevent premature ejac! ❤️
Sometimes I use a fleshlight to practice also!
I thought most bottoms just wanted the load and to leave. But seriously, breathing helps and taking care of business before having company over can also help with a delay but practice makes perfect.
If I am close, switch it up – change position or something and that usually resets, or someone is getting two loads 😈
Wearing a condom. Ewwww gross. But that helps from blowing too fast.
I hold off prematurely ejaculating by putting less focus on the head of my cock and working the lower half of my cock. Just below my curcim scar and less on the head and tip.
Hmmm… weird thing is that I am one of those types who doesn’t even precum, and so thankfully I have yet to experience premature ejaculation. If I’m done with what I’m doing, let it go! Otherwise, nipple twists! Lol